My Views About Communication

From the time we are born, to the time of our death, communication is something that should be treasured along with life. When we are young, we are taught to use our words when we want something or have the need to express what it is we are feeling. Then, into adulthood, we are encouraged to communicate in our relationships, as well as our jobs, our education, or even with others around the world.

Throughout childhood, we are told to use our words to tell others how we are feeling, or to ask for things. Then when we talk too much, we are told to be quiet and to stop talking, for some reason or another. We are too loud, too talkative, too inquisitive, or too noisy for today’s adults. So, for some, it could turn into needing attention in negative ways, or turning inward for support from themselves. Not creating a healthy relationship with communication, or those around who are supposed to be your support.

By the time we are teenagers, it’s almost as if we are discouraged to say anything, or ask any questions. Yet, the adults are disappointed by the choices made by teenagers and they don’t understand why those choices were made. It couldn't be that they felt ignored, judged, and alone when they were children that they had to grow up faster, just so they can answer questions for themselves. Or turn into delinquents, causing trouble as a cry for attention they never got as a child. Some may grow out of it and some may not, but it’s ultimately about the outcome and the goal that had to be reached.

Then, coming into adulthood, we have relationships through love, friends, jobs, schools, and continued with family. Not all, but some relationships will fail because of the lack of communication going on between each other. One side could be that one doesn't simply know how to communicate because of the way they were raised. Another could be that lies and deceit are the only ways to communicate. Or one believes in communication and the other does not. So many factors can be involved with this situation, it’s hard to pinpoint why so many relationships fail because of miscommunication.

I believe that from lack of communication, other habits are created and they can either be good or bad. Assumptions are being made because no one can talk to each other about what is really going on. Over-Analysis may also be a condition having no communication with others. Always over-thinking as to why or why not something is going on. This causes anxiety, worry, depression, and low self-esteem all because of not talking about it with people we are supposed to trust.

If we were allowed to say anything we wanted, without judgment or ridicule, than life today may have a few less problems. The beauty that comes along with communication could change the way that people think, the way people cope with everyday life, and the way things would be handled if everything was put out there. Granted that some things should never be said, but would such things exist if everything was allowed to be said or questioned?

Imagine where we would be is there was no miscommunication. Do you think that some miscommunication should be a normal part of our lives? Maybe for some, miscommunication is a blessing in disguise. But for most, I believe that it is the root of most problems with our society today. Change our ways, start with our children. Encourage them to talk, but don’t force it, and let it come to them naturally. Build that relationship.